We are almost four months into 2014. Did you make a resolution in January only to find that it’s been forgotten, broken, or disregarded? Do you feel as if you’ve failed once again at mastering the art of the New Year’s Resolution? Maybe something can be gained from the Failed Resolution Lesson.
Perhaps we shouldn’t focus quite so much energy on promises made to ourselves on one day of the year.
We cannot predict on January 01st everything that will happen in a given year. There are things that occur that throw roadblocks in our way and make it almost impossible to meet our own expectations.
According to the website, Statisticbrain.com, the Top 10 New Year’s Resolutions for 2014 were:
- Lose Weight
- Get Organized
- Spend Less, Save More
- Enjoy Life to the Fullest
- Staying Fit and Healthy
- Learn Something Exciting
- Quit Smoking
- Help Others in Their Dreams
- Fall in Love
- Spend More Time with Family
Percent of Americans who usually make New Year’s Resolutions = 45%
Percent of Americans who infrequently make New Year’s Resolutions = 17%
Percent of Americans who absolutely never make New Year’s Resolutions = $38%
So, why do we make resolutions?
I think the answer to this question is simple. We want to be better. We want to improve ourselves. All in all….we want to be happy.
[pullquote]Do you think we might create our own failures by setting the bar so high that reaching it would be unrealistic?[/pullquote]
A Different Approach
It might be time to try a different approach. Maybe we need to look at HOW we make our resolutions? For example, how many of us say “I am going to exercise every day” instead of “I will exercise as many times as possible in a week”? The difference in the two examples is subtle but powerful.
Do you think we might create our own failures by setting the bar so high that reaching it would be unrealistic?
We should also look at WHY we make them. If we make them solely for someone else, we increase our rate of potential failure.
The Resolution Lesson
The purpose of this post is to encourage you to ask questions. I don’t have the answers because, if I did, I would successfully attain all the goals of every resolution I make. The Resolution Lesson I learned from writing this post is to keep going. If I drop a resolution, don’t become discouraged. Say it’s OK to start again. Say it is OK to change my mind and do something different.
I encourage you to ask:
What can I take away from my own resolution failures to become a better person?
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